Definition
A first look is a private moment before the ceremony when you see each other dressed for the first time, usually with only your photographer nearby. Most take 15 to 20 minutes and move portraits before the ceremony.
15 to 20 min
For the first look itself
About 50/50
Kansas City couples who do one, in my experience
3 options
First look, first touch, or the aisle
How a First Look Works
We pick a quiet spot away from guests. One of you waits facing away, the other walks up, and then comes a tap on the shoulder. The next few minutes belong to the two of you, and I stay far enough back to keep them private.
Because you've already seen each other, portraits and wedding party photos move before the ceremony. Cocktail hour opens up for your guests instead of a portrait session.
Short answer: A first look is a private reveal before the ceremony. Plan 15 to 20 minutes for the moment itself, then use the time for portraits so you're free during cocktail hour.
First Look vs. the Aisle
A first look trades the aisle surprise for time and privacy. In my experience, Kansas City couples split close to evenly, and neither choice is unusual. If the aisle reaction is your top priority, a traditional aisle meeting keeps the moment whole.
There's a third option most couples miss: a first touch, where you hold hands around a door or wall without seeing each other. A first look with a parent or grandparent works too, on its own or alongside one with your partner.
I walk through the full decision, with the timeline trade-offs, in First Look or No First Look.
How I Handle First Looks
We settle the first look while planning your timeline together, well before the day. I pick a spot at your venue with soft light and few passersby, and I build the 15 to 20 minutes into the schedule so the moment never feels rushed.
Frequently Asked Questions About First Looks
A private moment before the ceremony when you see each other dressed for the first time, with only your photographer nearby.
About 15 to 20 minutes for the moment itself, plus any portrait time after.
No. Seeing each other first doesn't erase the moment your partner watches you walk toward them. If the aisle reaction matters most, skip the first look and keep the moment whole.
Yes. A first look with a dad, mom, sibling, or grandparent takes a few minutes and works on its own or alongside a first look with your partner.
Planning Your Morning? Tell me where you're each getting ready, and I'll suggest a first look spot with good light and few interruptions. Start the conversation →
